Monday, February 22, 2016

10-2-15 Grief

How does one grieve? How do you go though and emotion of grief? Seems as though most of my life grief was never allowed and we were taught to keep moving forward, never look back. The problem I have found is this mentality is only a band aid for the moment and eventually that grief needs to be dealt with. I have found that I did move forward in many aspects of my life except for dealing with the pain. I would "run" by using. If I started to feel I learned a poor remedy to silence those thoughts and fears. I feel a bit disconnected with it all. It being things I have endured in this life. I always thought of myself as being a window shopper in my life. That being, I observed what was happening but never assumed responsibility of actually being part of the reality around me. I never wanted anyone to feel sympathetic because I felt that was me wanting attention and in the end no one really cared anyway.  But in reality people do care about me and that is a hard bone to choke down. Why do they care? Are they just being nosey or even comparing their struggle to mine and how much worse mine is? I heard someone once say "I mean I have problems but not like yours" what does this mean?  Does it comfort them to know I'm more messed up than they are? Lots of unanswered questions I pray daily for the Lord to give me understanding and wisdom.

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